Relationships Aren't "IT"

- Or not automatically, at least.

Many of us have been raised on notions that our relationships are supposed to be something out of Titanic or Casablanca - and if they aren't, we don't want to "settle" for anything less.

In other words, we have incredibly unrealistic expectations about what relationships are supposed to be (perfect) and how they are supposed to work (easily).

Yet expecting a relationship to be "IT" becomes a crushing disappointment when you inevitably discover that this particular relationship isn't "IT": the morning after you walk off into the sunset, when the honeymoon has ended and you're back to the day-to-day life you had before; even the best relationships take work; and you discover that the other person is not a god ot goddess, but a flesh-and-blood human , just like yourself.

This disappointment can be prevented by not expecting to get "IT" from another person, but by the search for "IT" in the right places . . .

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