Hi. Thanks for stopping by.
So, what’s this all about?
LiveReal is about the quest for non-bogus answers to The Big Questions.
By “The Big Questions,” we mean…
- What’s it all about?
- What’s the point?
- Who am I?
- What am I?
- Why am I here?
- How should I live?
- Where did I come from?
- Where am I going?
- What the heck is going on?
…just to name a few.
And, by the way, the “non-bogus” part is pretty important.
We aren’t looking for mere slogans, platitudes or hokey theories.
What we’re after here are direct, firsthand experiences of clarity. Solid, self-evident, “that just makes sense” truths that you can test out for yourself and prove solid – or not – in the unforgiving jungle of modern life.
OK, but why ask “Big Questions”?
Another great question.
If you want to figure certain things out:
- the "happiness" thing
- the "meaning" thing
- the "relationships that aren’t train wrecks" thing
- yourself (also known as "your worst enemy," at least sometimes)
- legitimate spirituality (even for folks who think most “spiritual” stuff is bogus)
- overcoming things like depression, anxiety, stress, angst, addictions, etc
- “becoming who you are”
…well, all of that and more are directly, intimately, and sometimes secretly connected with those Big Questions.
So, we aren’t talking small potatoes here.
We’re aiming for the big stuff. Not the details.
The main course in life, not the condiments.
Wild guess here: you want to really "do something" with your life. You want to “live it well,” whatever that means.
Not just survive from one day to the next, and pay your bills and stand in line quietly until the clock runs out...but really, completely, fully live. Like Thoreau said, to make sure that, when you come to the end of your life, you won’t discover that you haven’t lived.
You’ve probably experienced certain peak moments at some point in your life. Where you’ve been overcome by some kind of inspiration, or wonder, or awe, or beauty, or clarity…where it feels like life is just overflowing, roaring, gushing through you.
Whatever those moments of clarity and beauty were about, well, you want to mark a big “X” on that spot on the map so you can find your way back.
But the key question here: “how?”
If “the mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation,” how do you avoid a life of quiet desperation?
If money doesn’t buy happiness, what does?
After all, it’s rough out there.
The problem these days isn’t lack of answers. It’s too many answers. A confused jumble of self-help books, clickbait blog posts, overhyped gurus and celebrities and folks who think they’ve Figured It All Out, all clamoring to push their answers on you.
There’s a lot of nonsense out there. And great stuff too, of course. And great stuff mixed in with total nonsense. Gems hidden in piles and piles of fertilizer.
Sorting through it all is no small task.
But that’s what we’re doing here: sorting through it.
So gear up.
Our goal here is to arm you with tools, maps, and know-how to help you successfully navigate the crazy landscape of life in the modern world.
To paint a picture: modern life is like a rugged, dangerous landscape full of quicksand, labyrinths, booby traps, and hungry gaters.
Navigating this terrain with no map, or compass, or matches (or even worse: bad maps, soggy matches, and a compass that never points north)…well, that just makes it even tougher than it was already.
Life is hard. And if you want things like genuine “happiness” and “inner strength” and “relationships that aren’t disasters” and things like that, well…
…you can’t just grab them off the shelf, shrink-wrapped and on sale at Target.
You have to seek them out.
In other words, it’s an adventure.
Another way of looking at it:
Your life is a quest.
It started when you were born. It ends when you die.
Between those two moments, you’re on a quest for priceless treasure.
So what is that “priceless treasure,” you ask?
(Another great question.)
Call it “happiness,” fulfillment, meaning, human flourishing, the good life, enlightenment, “the life worth living,” self-actualization, Eudaimonia, “living so you won’t have regrets,” heaven, becoming fully human, awakening, salvation, realizing your potential, and so on. (Lots of different names for it.)
Or from the other side: it’s a hunt for relief from at least some of the unnecessary suffering in life.
We divide all this into 4 basic categories.
Spirituality | soul | the Quest for Reality
Relationships |heart | the Search for Intimacy
Psychology | mind | the Fight for Sanity
Physical | body | the Pursuit of Vitality
Spiritual | The quest for no-nonsense, non-bogus spirituality. It’s exploring “The Big Questions” life asks each of us and digging to get better answers than we have now.
Relationships |Why do so many relationships start as fairy tales and end as train wrecks? We explore how to have relationships that are whatever the opposite of “dysfunctional” is.
Psychology | The fight for sanity in a crazy world. What makes people tick? How do I figure myself out? Mental clarity. Emotional strength. Self-mastery. Stuff like that.
Physical | The pursuit of real, deep down in your bones bodily health. Call it strength, spunk, verve, vigor – whatever you want. We call it “the pursuit of vitality.”
Modern life often pretends to offer all these things.
But then it actually delivers substitutes, imitations, counterfeits. More often than you might think.
- Instead of genuine happiness, modern life often offers us empty pleasures.
- Instead of solid truths, it offers us toothless, bumper-sticker slogans.
- Instead of relationships, single-serving friends. (Fight Club, anyone?)
- Instead of health, symptom-hiding.
- Instead of virtue, virtue-signaling.
- Instead of knowledge, information.
- Instead of purpose, pointless distractions.
And so on. This might sound cranky. (Get off my lawn, by the way.)
The trick is to find the real thing, not booby prizes.
We want real answers, not phony ones.
We want to live real.
(Sorry for the shameless self-promotion there.)
It’s not easy.
But no good adventure ever is.
OK, so how do we do this?
Our approach here is practical, no-nonsense, see-for-yourself, common sense, take-what-you-like-and-leave-the-rest.
The idea is that we gather evidence and ideas for you to test, examine, mull over and either adopt or toss. Skeptics, tough-minded thinkers, and folks tired of hyped-up nonsense are welcome here.
Our job is to dig through the avalanche of information, find the nuggets of practical wisdom, and serve them up here in a way that’s clear, practical, and plainspoken.
We dig through modern science, ancient wisdom, and everything in between to uncover the best nuggets we can.
Whether those nuggets are mainstream or fringe, highly accredited or outcast, world-famous or completely unknown…we don’t care. If it helps the mission, we’ll take it from anywhere.
And who are we?
We’re the LiveReal Agents.
We’re a merry little band of seekers, specialists, and misfits on an ongoing mission to find better Answers or die trying.
We each have our specialty. (There's the Skeptic. The Believer. The Walking Encyclopedia. The Dirty-Hands Pragmatist. The Space Cadet. The Guy Who Nobody’s Really Sure What the Heck He Is. And so on.)
We don’t pretend to have all the Answers. (That's not how it works.)
We’re exploring all this stuff right alongside you.
We’re all explorers here.
But our job (us LiveReal Agents) is to serve as your personal guinea pigs, space monkeys, crash-test dummies – to investigate stuff, experiment with it, and figure out what works and doesn’t – to hopefully save you some time and trouble in the process.
So, how does this work?
Well, we’d say first poke around a little and see if you dig the cut of our jib.
Here are a few suggestions to start: if you’re interested in the “meaning in life” question, go here. Happiness, here. Relationships, here. Or stuff about modern spirituality, modern psychology, spirituality for skeptics, physical health, inner strength, why we’re here, why you shouldn’t follow your heart, how psychology can drive us crazy, an edgy look at why modern times seem so weird…well, those are some decent entry points.
If you sign up for our Free Newsletter, we’ll try to walk you through some of that. (One we get everything working. We’re still setting this stuff up.)
And from there, if you want stuff that’s more advanced, you can join up. More on that here.
Those are the basics.
Our hope is that what we’re doing here infuses a bit more sanity, clarity, happiness, purpose, and even (dare we say it?) truth for others like us who are navigating through this crazy world.
The way we see it, there's a lot of unnecessary suffering, conflict and misunderstanding out there.
We think at least some of that can be relieved. Figuring some of this stuff out not only can help us understand life better, and our place in it, what we’re doing here, and why. It can also, just maybe, provide real relief.
Easing some of the burden of the day-to-day struggle. Understanding other people and yourself better. Overcoming things like depression, anxiety, addictions, stress, confusion, angst, etc. Experiencing more freedom, clarity, strength, authenticity, confidence, courage, etc. Being grounded in something solid, genuine, real.
Tall order, we know.
If this mission was easy, well, we could just go home and play with kittens all day or something.
But for now, those kittens are just going to have to wait.
We have a job to do.
So if you ask Big Questions about life, and think about this stuff, and want non-bogus Answers that can make things take a dramatic turn for the better…
…well, you aren’t alone.
It means that…at least on some level, you’re a Seeker.
And if you’re a Seeker, well, you’re among friends here.
Welcome to LiveReal.